dance class dilemma

dear world,

V is taking dance classes. just as the holidays were getting underway, V revealed that her favorite thing to do is dance. and that she wants to be a ballerina when she grows up. we pulled up some videos of the nutcracker on YouTube and she loved it. and dance along with the sugar plum fairy. it seemed to be a real interest.

we checked out a dance studio and let her try a class. (the first class is free!) she adored it. she went right in and didn’t look back. she followed her teacher. she interacted with the other little girls. so, for christmas, we asked for dance lessons from one of her grandparents and went ahead and enrolled her.

obviously, there was a break over the holidays. no dance on christmas eve. no dance on new year’s eve. but all that is over now and we’re back to normal.

sort of. this past saturday, she was thrilled to put her tutu dress back on. she wanted to bring a cereal bar in the car. there was no fussing about leaving the house. and when we got there, she wouldn’t go in. i mean seriously, she hid her face in her arm. she literally wouldn’t participate in the class. the studio is set up so the kids go into a separate room and parents can watch on a monitor outside the classroom and she’s never had a reservation about it before. this time, i even went into the room and sat with her for a couple of minutes, but she refused to join the class. she wouldn’t even walk over with her teacher. so we left. i didn’t want to sit there and disrupt the other kids.

here’s my dilemma: dance is not mandatory and i don’t want to make her do something she doesn’t want to do. but the other side of that is we are spending a lot of money on dance classes that she said she wanted. but she’s three. does she actually have any idea what she wants long term? i don’t know. i’m torn between wanting her to go to see it through, not wanting to make her do something she doesn’t want to do and wasting all that money on a class she’ll probably never attend again. (did i read the contract regarding cancellation before i signed? of course not.)

to V’s very great credit, she did not throw a fit. it was like she was actually scared. my child who never met a stranger suddenly couldn’t bring herself to be in a class without her mommy. sometimes, i forget that she’s still a little kid. she’s so stubborn and independent and strong willed that when she isn’t, i’m surprised.

not sure how to handle a change of behavior,



2 Responses to “dance class dilemma”

  1. 1 Peaches and Pumpkins January 9, 2012 at 3:27 pm

    I’m sorry for your dilema! I used to teach dance class, and had this problem a few times with some of the children. One of them in particular was about three as well. I recommended to the mom taking a little time to play at home ballet, let her wear her tutu and remind her how much fun dancing was at home..making it fun and silly. Then take her to class and don’t be nervous! Be really excited to go, and don’t seem the least bit worried. I hope things go well..I know it can be challenging. Thanks for sharing!

    • 2 candidlymommy January 10, 2012 at 10:23 pm

      thank you so much for the advice. we’ve definitely played dancing at home, but i haven’t started the game with any purpose. we’ll try it this week and hopefully it will ease her shyness.

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